How to Master Your Emotions to Set Better BoundariesNov 26, 2022
Emotions can play an essential role in your very survival. Let that sink in… According to Miriam Webster Dictionary, mastery is defined as skill or knowledge that makes one master of a subject: COMMAND.
With that said, to gain mastery, in this case, would indicate you have control or dominion over your emotions.
The question becomes, ‘Can you learn how to master your emotions?’
YES! You can. And doing so will enhance your ability to set better boundaries as a result.
Let’s dive in by starting with the basics.
Getting in Touch with Your Emotions
According to renowned psychologist Robert Plutchik, there are eight primary emotions – anger, fear, sadness, disgust, surprise, anticipation, trust, and joy. Many emotions can trigger a response; in the case of fear, a “fight or flight” response is engaged. Fight or flight can be directly linked to our instinctual survival mode.
All emotions are valuable, a way for our mind to communicate with our body. There is no such thing as a bad emotion though certain emotions can make us uncomfortable.
Allow and accept all of your emotions. What are they trying to communicate to you?
Awareness is the first step toward mastery.
Feeling an intense emotion? Good! Identify it. Allow it.
Is it anger or fear? Or a combination of emotions? Tune into your body barometer.
When you are fearful, does your heart race, or palms get sweaty, or do you shake?
PAY ATTENTION! Let your body be your guide.
As you learn to identify primary emotions, they will guide your actions and help you discern whether it’s necessary to set boundaries with someone you are in a relationship with.
Bear in mind that mastering your emotions is a gift you give yourself over and over again. Because by recognizing that your emotions are simply messengers trying to tell you something of great importance. With that intel, you are equipped to solve the problem at hand.
To truly master your emotions, you must first understand them. And awareness is your greatest teacher. So, do not be afraid!
Consider emotions as guideposts that accompany you on your life’s journey.
Why is Emotional Intelligence Important?
Emotional intelligence, also known as EQ or EI, is a hot topic today and is directly connected to setting boundaries. When you have strong emotional intelligence, you have the aptitude for identifying your emotions and self-regulate. Beyond that, EQ enables you to relate to, empathize with, and understand the emotion of others.
This ability is a superpower as it fuels your capability to develop healthy relationships, diffuse challenging situations, and reduce stress levels (your own and those around you). EQ, when demonstrated, is a magnetic and admirable quality that inspires others to follow suit.
You can see how emotional intelligence is valuable in any relationship (personal, work life, or in the community)
Who triggers primary emotions in your life?
Whoever came to mind, dear one, is the person or persons you need to set boundaries with, PRONTO!
Remember that boundaries are not antagonistic but rather have the power to heal troublesome relationships. It is a means by which you can self-regulate when in the presence of a particular individual.
Master Your Emotions So You Can Set Better Boundaries with Ease
Harness the power of your emotions while simultaneously gaining boundary mastery.
Awareness and understanding of emotions come first; next comes the practice of implementation (communicating your boundaries with others). Bear in mind that mastering your emotions is a necessary part of personal growth. It’s also an essential part of self-care. By recognizing your feelings and needs, you can more easily know when, where, and with whom to set boundaries.
In time you will come to a place of setting boundaries with confidence, ease, and grace, and the ramifications are far-reaching.
Emotional mastery helps you cultivate healthy relationships, and when it comes down to it, nothing is more critical to your well-being.
Set Boundaries. Find Peace.
Setting boundaries is a powerful and effective way to achieve and maintain peace. By declaring what you will and won’t accept, you define what you will and won’t allow.
The fact is you will get more and more of what you allow. So, learn to use your voice to articulate limits clearly.
You’ll need to stand firm in your boundaries unapologetically. So, get ready to kick guilt and shame to the curb. You have the right to protect your emotional health, after all.
You deserve peace in your life!
Just say no to chaos and people who disturb your peace of mind. You are in the driver’s seat.
YOU decide how you will live your life, and only you have the power and ability to change it.
May you find peace, hold peace, and protect the peace in your life! You are worthy of a joyful, peaceful life; you must proclaim it by setting boundaries.
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